Am I ready?

No sex?... No worries - no regrets

Having Sex can be enjoyable with the right person and at the right time. However, it's very easy to make mistakes and end up hurt, which is why people advise you: "don't have sex until you're ready!". Lots of people regret their first sexual experience because they ‘thought’ they were ready but when they look back they realise they weren’t. We don’t want this to happen to you.

Learning about relationships and sex is a normal part of growing up and having a sexual relationship is a healthy adult activity. However, deciding when is the right time to start having sex can be difficult. Sometimes it helps to talk to an adult about your concerns.

It is easy to be influenced by friends who may tell you that they are already having sex. Sometimes partners can put a lot of pressure on us.


  • Most people don’t have sex until they are 17 (it is against the law to have sex with anyone under 16 years old – including lesbian and gay sex). The law is there to protect young people from being forced into having sex.
  • Usually sex is best when part of a loving relationship.
  • Sex should feel good; it shouldn’t feel uncomfortable or threatening.
  • You should have sex to please yourself, not other people.
  • You have the right to say “No”. Make sure you say it loud and clear.
  • If you have had sex before it doesn’t mean you have to carry on having sex.
  • You are unique and special. It’s up to you what happens to your body.

Thinking about the questions below may help you to decide whether you are ready to have sex:

  1. Can you and your partner have fun without anything sexual being involved?
  2. Have you talked about safer sex and condoms to each other?
  3. Do you have a special connection and does it feel right to have sex?
  4. Do you think you could say “No” if you wanted to?
  5. Are you thinking about having sex because you want to, not because someone else is putting pressure on you, forcing you?

If you can answer “Yes” to all of these questions then you may be ready to have sex but make sure that you feel comfortable and that you use contraception.

Did you know…?

Sex can lead to pregnancy (yes even the first time), as well as a getting a Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI). There can also be emotional consequences to having sex with someone - it can really change a relationship, and maybe not for the better so remember to make sure you are absolutely ready.

For those people who are old enough and absolutely sure that they want to and are ready to have sex, it is really, really important that you are prepared and keep yourself safe.

Remember…'Sex - You choose, no need to rush… No regrets.'

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